Comments on: The Bell Jar http://laurganism.com/2007/02/03/the-bell-jar/ Dictating the Internet since 1996 Sun, 04 Jul 2010 16:21:13 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Gay http://laurganism.com/2007/02/03/the-bell-jar/comment-page-1/#comment-17261 Gay Sun, 25 Feb 2007 01:04:03 +0000 http://laurganism.com/2007/02/03/the-bell-jar/#comment-17261 This hits me at the moment, though there's a big difference in our ages. Am about to finish my PhD and I am at loss as to what to do. Should I pursue a postdoc, then a postdoc, then a postdoc? It seems so cut and dried. I am still looking at options and have to decide soon... This hits me at the moment, though there’s a big difference in our ages. Am about to finish my PhD and I am at loss as to what to do. Should I pursue a postdoc, then a postdoc, then a postdoc? It seems so cut and dried. I am still looking at options and have to decide soon…

]]> By: no milk http://laurganism.com/2007/02/03/the-bell-jar/comment-page-1/#comment-16452 no milk Thu, 15 Feb 2007 20:47:21 +0000 http://laurganism.com/2007/02/03/the-bell-jar/#comment-16452 interestingly, i have been reading sylvia plath's collected poems and i feel like it's one of those books that either move you or leave you cold. some of the poems really spoke to me, because she has a total way with words and others, just really TH (you know, trying hard)... interestingly, i have been reading sylvia plath’s collected poems and i feel like it’s one of those books that either move you or leave you cold. some of the poems really spoke to me, because she has a total way with words and others, just really TH (you know, trying hard)…

]]> By: fruityoaty http://laurganism.com/2007/02/03/the-bell-jar/comment-page-1/#comment-16017 fruityoaty Fri, 09 Feb 2007 05:10:30 +0000 http://laurganism.com/2007/02/03/the-bell-jar/#comment-16017 I read that book when I was, hmmm 16 I think... and revisited it again at age 22. Yup, put on some depressing songs, repeat readings of that book and Prozac Nation... and you've got a surefire recipe for suicidal thoughts. Anyway, I can relate to what you're feeling... but in a slightly different way. Whereas, I believe you're thinking mostly about your future happiness, the tough decisions you need to make... I was saddled with obligations and the need to make OTHERS happy. My father got very sick and I had to drop out of university Architecture program to support my family. I never went back (life and priorities changed)... I eventually graduated in something else... working and going to school at night at the same time. I'm happy enough with what I do now, I make good money... but money is of course, not the best predictor of happiness. I hope you never had to go through with what I went through. I read that book when I was, hmmm 16 I think… and revisited it again at age 22. Yup, put on some depressing songs, repeat readings of that book and Prozac Nation… and you’ve got a surefire recipe for suicidal thoughts.

Anyway, I can relate to what you’re feeling… but in a slightly different way. Whereas, I believe you’re thinking mostly about your future happiness, the tough decisions you need to make… I was saddled with obligations and the need to make OTHERS happy. My father got very sick and I had to drop out of university Architecture program to support my family.

I never went back (life and priorities changed)… I eventually graduated in something else… working and going to school at night at the same time. I’m happy enough with what I do now, I make good money… but money is of course, not the best predictor of happiness.

I hope you never had to go through with what I went through.

]]> By: Derek Houck http://laurganism.com/2007/02/03/the-bell-jar/comment-page-1/#comment-15631 Derek Houck Sun, 04 Feb 2007 18:56:01 +0000 http://laurganism.com/2007/02/03/the-bell-jar/#comment-15631 Well, if you ever make it over to the US, you could do what I'm doing right now and make money of your web coding skills. $28 dollars an hour for 24 hours a week, and now I've got time and money to once again pursue an acting career. You're the first blogger in the Philippines, that's got to be able to translate into money somehow. Well, if you ever make it over to the US, you could do what I’m doing right now and make money of your web coding skills. $28 dollars an hour for 24 hours a week, and now I’ve got time and money to once again pursue an acting career. You’re the first blogger in the Philippines, that’s got to be able to translate into money somehow.

]]> By: Shabby http://laurganism.com/2007/02/03/the-bell-jar/comment-page-1/#comment-15581 Shabby Sun, 04 Feb 2007 05:54:15 +0000 http://laurganism.com/2007/02/03/the-bell-jar/#comment-15581 <em>I hate that these days, it’s the people who sacrifice their own happiness and dreams in order to attain society’s definition of success that are most admired.</em> I hate that too. Why can't we be just be successful and happy? I know some people who complain about their jobs and they can't do anything about it because it pays their bills. But I always thought that if you really want to be happy and content with life, do what you really want to do. If it's hard or it doesn't give you much, then just work harder... Manage on what you get because, you'll certainly get what you deserve. I think I'm not clear on my point, but I hope you get me. :) I think when I become part of the working class, I'll become a workaholic yet I'll always give time for the things I want to do. Like continue playing with my band... I don't want to get old thinking that all I did was work my ass off just for the money. Enjoy life to the fullest, right? :) Sorry if I didn't make much sense. I hate that these days, it’s the people who sacrifice their own happiness and dreams in order to attain society’s definition of success that are most admired.

I hate that too. Why can’t we be just be successful and happy? I know some people who complain about their jobs and they can’t do anything about it because it pays their bills. But I always thought that if you really want to be happy and content with life, do what you really want to do. If it’s hard or it doesn’t give you much, then just work harder… Manage on what you get because, you’ll certainly get what you deserve. I think I’m not clear on my point, but I hope you get me. :) I think when I become part of the working class, I’ll become a workaholic yet I’ll always give time for the things I want to do. Like continue playing with my band… I don’t want to get old thinking that all I did was work my ass off just for the money. Enjoy life to the fullest, right? :)

Sorry if I didn’t make much sense.

]]> By: voodoo http://laurganism.com/2007/02/03/the-bell-jar/comment-page-1/#comment-15511 voodoo Sat, 03 Feb 2007 20:12:35 +0000 http://laurganism.com/2007/02/03/the-bell-jar/#comment-15511 as someone who works with hundreds of students who are facing the very same dilemma, two things come to mind: your sanity depends on your clarity and it's perfectly fine to not know what to do in the meanwhile. you may not find either of them mollifying, and I apologize...find your mentor, if you have one. they'll know you better than you know yourself. good luck ;-) as someone who works with hundreds of students who are facing the very same dilemma, two things come to mind: your sanity depends on your clarity and it’s perfectly fine to not know what to do in the meanwhile.

you may not find either of them mollifying, and I apologize…find your mentor, if you have one. they’ll know you better than you know yourself. good luck ;-)

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