Comments on: Thoughts on the Bakla, the Filipino gays

By: kingman

kingman — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 12:31:20 +0000

thanks for all the gays in the world
i am from Djipouti and i am staying in united arab emirates
here in emirates there is a gays but for me i like filipino gays so i am only us filipino
thanks

By: Jason

Jason — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 16:55:17 +0000

Lauren, it’s actually my first time to send a comment through ANY personal blog. Thank God the Internet is working right now over here where I’m working because frequently there’s a problem with the connection here. I came across this personal blog of yours because I was trying to find some interesting article on Japanese men with Filipino gays. Anyway, I’m only just learning to use the computer when I arrived here in the Middle East 14 mos. ago & I’m not familiar with these personal blogs and other computer stuff because I don’t have anyone to teach me here. When I’m not busy here in my work I access the Internet and I’m slowly learning to use this Intenet through self-effort. Anyhow, I’m 35 y.o. & I’ve already worked in 4 different countries and so I can share with you some of the things that I’ve personally experienced and observed. To start, I also graduated from ADMU & with the same course (AB Social Sciences). I find that SYNCHRONISTIC & paying attention to synchronicities is something that I’m consciously practicing. Oprah Winfrey said on her show that a woman experiences things and the world differently compared to, say, a man or a gay. I grew up in the 70s and 80s in Manila and to this day, I am a big fan of the American tv shows Charlie’s Angels, Wonder Woman and The Golden Girls. I feel very inspired when I see the friendship among the Angels and the Golde Girls on-screen. And what’s even more inspiring for me is how these women are friends in real life. I’ve been watching much of Farrah Fawcett lately on Youtube and I feel inspired when I hear the good things that her co-Angels say about her. To qoute Angel Cheryl Ladd, The Angels were “women who fought for each other and fought for what was right.” It feels very inspiring to see these women being friends on- and off-camera. And the Angels have managed to maintain their connection with each other long after the tv series had ended. As with The Golden Girls, my effeminate friends in high school used to tell me how they hoped that we could be like the elderly women who were friends with each other when we reach old age. My point in sharing this is that str8 people have models of enduring and lasting friendships in the media and I hope that the Universe gifts you with a deep and caring female friendship as well. Oprah shared that in school, that’s where you experience things like betrayal, etc. As a person gets older, hopefully s/he matures and learns how to be a better friend. It’s a cliche but “In order to have a friend you have to be a friend.” Another cliche is “We don’t make friends but RECOGNIZE friends.” To quote Dr. Vicky Belo “You see who your friends are when the chips are down.” Oprah met her BFF (Best Female Friend) OF MORE THAN 20 YEARS Gayle King when she was already in her 30s. Oprah said that there’s something about her friendship with Gayle that feels designed by a Higher Power. One time IN AN INTERVIEW, friend Diane Sawyer asked Oprah if she were given a chance to marry a woman (hypothetically of course since Oprah ain’t gay), whom would she choose aside from Gayle. To which Oprah answered, “Salma Hayek’ since Selma is an intelligent and sensible woman and Oprah is a no-nonsense woman. WE ATTRACT TO OURSELVES WHAT WE MOST ARE. In the absence of same-sex friendships, what I personally do is just focus on my intimate relationship/s. Like you, I don’t go around looking for same-sex friendships but I do send out an aura that I’m open to having platonic friendships with the same sex. I appreciate on what I have in my life and I’ve been GRACED enough to have intimate soulmate relationships in all the foreign countries that I’ve worked in so far. I’ll share my experience-based views on being a Filipino effeminate in a separate comments sheet so as not to mix up the topics.

By: Rod

Rod — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 13:00:56 +0000

Hello everyone I just became curious about Gay Filipinos and decided to check this blog out. A very interesting topic and it’s nice to read different opinions so here is mines. I’m a 23 year old openminded Gay Black male. I still do found some women to be attractive so I could be considered Bisex but to most since I have be involved with men more relationship wise I am “Gay.”

Anyways moving on my point is this we are all different I’m a very great example of unique. I’m attracted to Filipino men and know some tagalog so when people learn of this they seem “shock” like it’s soo strange that I am how I am. *sigh* Ha ha can I change the fact that I found Filipino men to be attractive no just like I can not change that I am Black and found all types of men to be attractive. So if I was a Filipino I would be considered “Bakla” or “Gay” and really what’s the big difference with all this label crap?.(well let’s break it down)

I’m now using the term “same gender loving” because Gay is a Str8 up played out label. lol(don’t that mean happy anyways?) Now in my opinion “Bakla” sounds like a offensive word that’s just like using the words fa**ot,bi*!h,or ni*!er. Like Lauren said in this blog Bakla is like saying “Fem Gay” and that can surely be offensive to a Gay person that know they are not Fem or considered to be less than a man.

There are so many different types of Gay people just like there are so different types of Str8 people so you definitely shouldn’t define a Gay Filipino into such a crappy a*s label. Furthermore whats horrible about fa!*t is that hate word used right before and after someone gets violently beat too death or hurt by another person. What that one label alone can do is put down his manhood it’s used to make him feel less than a humanbeing. :(

Now I know that in the Filipino culture maybe “Bakla” is looked at differently not a hateful word like compared to “F@gg!t” but if someone say Bakla too my face when I visit the Philippines trying to be funny that would not be a good “mabuhay”. *ahem* I’m a nice guy but I will be sure to correct that individual face to face. *snap* Ha ha I’m sorry people but I can be very blunt and detailed about my opinions. Hey hah what a nice blog thanks for sharing Lauren.

By: Pronghorn

Pronghorn — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 12:25:27 +0000

This is interesting. I have similarly themed entries at my blog. Click on the sexuality label. Pronghorns last blog post..Keffiyeh Blues

By: harley

harley — Wed, 19 Sep 2007 02:33:55 +0000

I would like to point out that it is not of the attraction of the sexes that matters as an individual. it is per person’s choice on how he handles everything in his life. Just for instance, you can see everyday in the news about men doing crimes that most of us cant think a person could do, and that goes true to women. you can also see around you alot of people, men and women, doing wonderful things to one another. With this, i dont see any wrong of being a gay for everyone has choices and with these choices is accompanied by great responsibilities that need to think over.

I hope i gave some points to pounder on.

By: Mushroom

Mushroom — Sun, 13 May 2007 14:04:15 +0000

Some men treat the “bakla” as women, so they don’t think that being with them makes them gay as well. They merely overlook their physical structures.

And don’t generalize every bakla as a screeching type. Those are mostly the ones in the movies, and you do not use a movie as reference.

By: Debbie Coursey

Debbie Coursey — Sat, 25 Nov 2006 22:13:07 +0000

I am a paralegal in the states and am working for a lawyer defending a gay Filipino client that touch the pizza boy during a pizza delivery near the groin area – Is there any cultural issues in the homosexual community that could possibly be used as a defense in this case. I appreciate any help that you can provide.

By: cher

cher — Mon, 24 Jul 2006 16:16:36 +0000

i have a slew of gay friends, and i love (most of) them to bits, but they *can* be overly dramatic and emotional. they *can* be treacherous too. learned this the hard way when i was “burned” by one too many. they can be funny and endearingly sweet, but when they choose to bring out their claws, watch out! it’s the worst of both worlds! :P

By: kataru

kataru — Thu, 20 Jul 2006 16:51:39 +0000

yea, gay men here in the philippines are way different than in the US. I dont discriminate gays, in fact, i found them funny. Im actually a YAOI fan, a japanese term,and which is usually about sexually attractive guys. A pair usually consists of a manly/cute guy and effeminate guy, no crossdressers. I like it very much, it’s very attractive, seeing two cute boys in-love with each other. And what’s more, it’s a guy with a face of a girl, a girly guy.

By: joani ramos

joani ramos — Tue, 18 Jul 2006 11:09:19 +0000

i am a married woman but i prefer to be called the babaeng bakla and i am comfortable about it..are there any articles about babaeng bakla?
bakla or not bakla,it’s a personal lifetime decision…but believe me,what matters most is that the person inside that loves unselfishly counts..your concepts enlightened me …i will comment soon